Good Morning !!
WOW !!! How weird to be typing October already. Yet, it is my ultimate fav time of the year next to hard core winter season. I am so excited for this upcoming holiday season. Halloweenie, then Thanksgiving and yes Christmas even. My fav way to celebrate is pulling out all the decorations and realizing, ohh wow I forgot I had that one. So, this mornings topic is, raising teenagers. I always felt so blessed when my child made it through the terrible twos and the everything is traumatizing three's and so forth. But, now we are at the tip of the beginning of the teenage years. 15 going into 16. All I can say right now on it is this...... HELP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I called the three's everything is traumatizing, well teenage years is really kinda close to that but more like ; this is my drama life so let me be dramatized. My husband has a very very large family. Filled with many nieces and nephews, and grand children. I do love a large family. As well, each and every one of them have stayed actively involved in some sort of sporting events throughout their childhood. One sister in law to be exact has a handful of beautiful children who are and have been involved in track and field their entire lives. Kuddos to her, as she makes sure with her busy schedule that she sees that her children are at every track meet etc. And, of course we too have encouraged my one and only numer-ouno to be sport involved. He has bless his heart chosen his mamma's fav sport ever, basketball. Last year however, was a nightmare as I was working second shift in a nursing facility. And, was unable to be at most of the games, as well entailed finding rides back and forth being we had one vehicle. Sometimes he would say mom just let me ride home with one of the guys on the team. My response was, ""hell NO !!! "" ""But mom we are just coming straight home , don't you trust me ??" urgh how to respond on that remark. Well, first off never let the child be in control of the conversation. Serious on that one there. I respond of course dear I trust you its other people I don't trust. And, then I explain how his grandfather did not let me drive till after high school. Regardless, when a teenager is trying to make THEIR point become reality it does not matter what you say or how you explain the rules. It is forever drama ridden. Their way only, or their life will come to an end as they know it. Lord, how many times have I heard that statement thus far. My biggest fear as a parent of a teenager is this, yes unnecessary car wrecks, getting a drivers permit when they ARE NOT ready or mature enough. I used to be ashamed to admit I did not own my first car till after graduation, not anymore. 16 to me is way too young to be able to drive with or without a parent. It costs 100 dollars alone just for taking the course to be able to obtain a learners permit. That is CRAZY in itself. And, if you flunk or miss just one that makes you unable to pass and receive the permit you are just throwing away a 100 dollars boom fly away 100 dollar bill see ya sometime maybe !! NOT !!! Call me controlling whatever. I don't care, I am not here in this world to please every Tom Dick and Mary !!!!!! I refuse to be one of those parents who are like well your gonna do it anyways, so might as well just go with the flow of it. Well, do you want to know what happens when you are one of those type of parents. Here is a dose of reality to parents of a teenager(s) who just "'go with the flow""". There as of today are three 16 year olds in the hospital, 2 in critical care. And, unfortunatly sadly to say one died as of wreckless teenage driving !!! My heart aches for these kids. The deceased was good friends of my nephews. Some of you may get pissed off at me for sharing this story, by thinking I don't know what I am talking about as I don't know these children personally. But, personally as a parent I don't give a rip roaring azz what you think !!! If it means saving one teenagers life so be it !!! Includes my own teenager. I am sure if these parents had the opportunity for a do-over they would grab it in a heart beat !!! This teenage boy who died was in my nephews track and field , he was a member of their team. Losing a child is the ultimate worst regardless the age of the child. But, there were five occupants in this vehicle that was speeding beyond control !! Over 100mph !!! NEVER,EVER,EVER let your teenager get in a vehicle with more than one being the driver--I will stand by that till the day my child becomes an adult and then some !! Yes, I am on my soap box this am and will be for some time over this incident. Where the car crashed is the worst hill we used to call it the devils hill when we were kids. KIDS--value your lives more for the love of God !!! To be a survivor of something like this is a lifetime of emotional survivors guilt from hell !! You ARE NOT replaceable in your parents heart there is only ONE you !!!! Think about that !! Okay so on the flip side of reality, parents and loved ones embrace these kids no matter how bratty they are !!! Take moments and hours just to hug them and let them know they are loved and appreciated !! Don't be a parent that later turns around and regrets what happened !! Life is short !! Life is precious !! Life needs Love !!!! With that have a most Bluesified Day everyone !! Love to you all !!!!!! Keeping all involved from this weekends horrible tragedy in my prayers !!!!!
WOW !!! How weird to be typing October already. Yet, it is my ultimate fav time of the year next to hard core winter season. I am so excited for this upcoming holiday season. Halloweenie, then Thanksgiving and yes Christmas even. My fav way to celebrate is pulling out all the decorations and realizing, ohh wow I forgot I had that one. So, this mornings topic is, raising teenagers. I always felt so blessed when my child made it through the terrible twos and the everything is traumatizing three's and so forth. But, now we are at the tip of the beginning of the teenage years. 15 going into 16. All I can say right now on it is this...... HELP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I called the three's everything is traumatizing, well teenage years is really kinda close to that but more like ; this is my drama life so let me be dramatized. My husband has a very very large family. Filled with many nieces and nephews, and grand children. I do love a large family. As well, each and every one of them have stayed actively involved in some sort of sporting events throughout their childhood. One sister in law to be exact has a handful of beautiful children who are and have been involved in track and field their entire lives. Kuddos to her, as she makes sure with her busy schedule that she sees that her children are at every track meet etc. And, of course we too have encouraged my one and only numer-ouno to be sport involved. He has bless his heart chosen his mamma's fav sport ever, basketball. Last year however, was a nightmare as I was working second shift in a nursing facility. And, was unable to be at most of the games, as well entailed finding rides back and forth being we had one vehicle. Sometimes he would say mom just let me ride home with one of the guys on the team. My response was, ""hell NO !!! "" ""But mom we are just coming straight home , don't you trust me ??" urgh how to respond on that remark. Well, first off never let the child be in control of the conversation. Serious on that one there. I respond of course dear I trust you its other people I don't trust. And, then I explain how his grandfather did not let me drive till after high school. Regardless, when a teenager is trying to make THEIR point become reality it does not matter what you say or how you explain the rules. It is forever drama ridden. Their way only, or their life will come to an end as they know it. Lord, how many times have I heard that statement thus far. My biggest fear as a parent of a teenager is this, yes unnecessary car wrecks, getting a drivers permit when they ARE NOT ready or mature enough. I used to be ashamed to admit I did not own my first car till after graduation, not anymore. 16 to me is way too young to be able to drive with or without a parent. It costs 100 dollars alone just for taking the course to be able to obtain a learners permit. That is CRAZY in itself. And, if you flunk or miss just one that makes you unable to pass and receive the permit you are just throwing away a 100 dollars boom fly away 100 dollar bill see ya sometime maybe !! NOT !!! Call me controlling whatever. I don't care, I am not here in this world to please every Tom Dick and Mary !!!!!! I refuse to be one of those parents who are like well your gonna do it anyways, so might as well just go with the flow of it. Well, do you want to know what happens when you are one of those type of parents. Here is a dose of reality to parents of a teenager(s) who just "'go with the flow""". There as of today are three 16 year olds in the hospital, 2 in critical care. And, unfortunatly sadly to say one died as of wreckless teenage driving !!! My heart aches for these kids. The deceased was good friends of my nephews. Some of you may get pissed off at me for sharing this story, by thinking I don't know what I am talking about as I don't know these children personally. But, personally as a parent I don't give a rip roaring azz what you think !!! If it means saving one teenagers life so be it !!! Includes my own teenager. I am sure if these parents had the opportunity for a do-over they would grab it in a heart beat !!! This teenage boy who died was in my nephews track and field , he was a member of their team. Losing a child is the ultimate worst regardless the age of the child. But, there were five occupants in this vehicle that was speeding beyond control !! Over 100mph !!! NEVER,EVER,EVER let your teenager get in a vehicle with more than one being the driver--I will stand by that till the day my child becomes an adult and then some !! Yes, I am on my soap box this am and will be for some time over this incident. Where the car crashed is the worst hill we used to call it the devils hill when we were kids. KIDS--value your lives more for the love of God !!! To be a survivor of something like this is a lifetime of emotional survivors guilt from hell !! You ARE NOT replaceable in your parents heart there is only ONE you !!!! Think about that !! Okay so on the flip side of reality, parents and loved ones embrace these kids no matter how bratty they are !!! Take moments and hours just to hug them and let them know they are loved and appreciated !! Don't be a parent that later turns around and regrets what happened !! Life is short !! Life is precious !! Life needs Love !!!! With that have a most Bluesified Day everyone !! Love to you all !!!!!! Keeping all involved from this weekends horrible tragedy in my prayers !!!!!
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